And the only way to ‘own’ yourself is to learn about yourself and constantly reprogramme until you get the results you want. It’s so easy to fall into the trap of blaming circumstances as to why you don’t have more. We ‘want want want’ all the time but are we choosing to do anything differently?
So many of us want to jump ‘levels’ and chase the ‘greener grass’ over and over again. Always looking for a better opportunity, never realising WE ARE the problem. We have been given the greatest power in the world, the power to choose. Everything that is in our past is either: a learning experience to grow on, a beautiful memory to reflect on, or a motivating factor to act upon.
Ever feel like you’re in an ongoing wrestling match with life? The minute you figure out one thing — something else comes up? I recently found myself trapped in the illusion of reaching an end — where everything was fixed and I had no more repairs to make. But this thinking is stressful, because the truth is — there is no end. Perhaps there might be end-ments but following right after are commencements. Each day is commencement day.
In her book End the Struggle and Dance with Life, Susan Jeffers talks about our need to learn how to “surrender.” Surrender means “letting go of our attachment to the world being any different than it is.” Whenever some change occurs, she advises that we say “OK, Universe. Take over please.” This doesn’t mean, “OK, Universe. Don’t let anything change” It means…
“OK, Universe. Take over, please. Whatever happens, so be it. I trust the Grand Design. I trust it is all happening as it is supposed to happen.”
We can learn and grow from it all. If we don’t have this kind of trust, we sometimes isolate ourselves from some of the most blissful experiences in life. This is such a huge world, that it is truly self-denial when we hold ourselves back because we are trying to hold on too tightly to something that is ultimately impermanent.
What I realised is that we must be able to do all that we can possibly do to the best of our ability. And when we’ve done that — we must surrender. Sometimes though we’re saying one thing, but our actions, beliefs and habits ‘say’ something else.
You can’t build a $100,000 a year income inside a $20,000 a year mind.
You can’t build a powerful mind inside a house filled with weak habits.
You can’t build an organised life inside a chaotic and scattered mind.
In a magazine People and Possibilities Veronica Hay asks: “what if you choose to be totally present and conscious for the next 30 days, not walking around in a daze, but aware of each precious moment, taking nothing for granted, counting each blessing, savouring each encounter, relishing each experience, feeling grounded to the earth, perhaps for the very first time, viewing it all from a higher place than before. What new people, experiences, habits, will you welcome into your life and which ones will you have finally let go of and how will that make you feel?”
Why don’t you take this challenge? What one thing can you promise yourself to do every single day, for the next 30 days, and keep your word about it, and how will it feel at the end of the 30 days when you have completed it? It could be writing an article a day, or dancing or exercising every day or simply remembering to keep your word. Keeping your word is a big one. If you did that alone for one entire month, your life will have changed dramatically.
Where will you be on the thirtieth day, what will you have accomplished, what will you have done with this precious thirty days that you have been given and what impact will that have made upon your life?
We are our own scriptwriters and the play is never finished, no matter what our age or position in life. By thinking and acting affirmatively in this minute, you will influence the hour, the day, and in time, your entire life.
Life is a do-it-for-others, do-it-yourself project. Stop ‘sticking’ and start doing! Make one decision. Change one habit. Take action TNT – OWN yourself today – not tomorrow!