How many people can make a major decision that will ruin your life?
This was a question posed in an article by entrepreneur and bestselling author James Altucher. James explained further what he meant.
I don’t like it when one person can make or break me. A boss. A publisher. A TV producer. A buyer of my company. At any one point, I’ve had to kiss [butt] to all of the above. I hate it. I will never do it again.
In Trinidad, a friend and client of mine said to me once, “you need to keep everyone at f#$%& you distance.” I understood VERY clearly what he was saying. You need to be able to walk away whenever a situation, relationship or contract no longer “feels right.”
Business strategist Marie Forleo, in a post titled “How I walked away from a million dollars”, says “Have you ever let go of something pretty good in order to create something truly great? Whether it was leaving a good-enough job, a comfortable relationship or even closing down a profitable business…sometimes the only way to get what you really want in life is to leave behind the sure thing you already have. For many, success can be a trickier trap than failure. After all, if nothing’s really “wrong” — why not just keep a good thing going? Shouldn’t we just keep our head down and be grateful for what we have?”
I hear the “grateful” excuse a lot. And I’m not saying that those who say that they don’t really like their job but they’re grateful that they HAVE a job are not really grateful BUT…they are also scared! – Scared of the unknown, scared that if they venture out they may not be able to recreate the lifestyle that they’ve grown accustomed to enjoying.
Have you sincerely tried to walk away and failed?
Euclid’s axiom says: “The whole is equal to the sum of all the parts and is greater than any of its parts.” This can be rated, assimilated, and applied to every result or achievement. Napoleon Hill suggests that if you’re not able to make the necessary change that there just might be something missing – some necessary part to complete the whole.
On safehorizon.org’s page, there is a story of a woman called Veronica, who finally found the courage to walk away from her marriage. She could not do it alone. Here’s an excerpt: “I need help getting out.” The first five words Veronica said to us when she walked into one of our Criminal Court program offices were clear. She appeared to be exhausted, scared, and she wanted to find a way out. As Veronica sat in our office that morning, she described seven years of psychological, emotional, financial, and verbal abuse at the hands of her husband, and that he would also threaten her physically. Veronica told us that she held a Master’s degree, yet because of the constant abuse, she felt belittled, frightened, and completely disempowered. In spite of her education, she could not keep a job or maintain her financial independence. Her husband, however, had a job. He owned their home and he also held additional assets that she had no access to. In spite of these daunting challenges Veronica was ready to leave. She would need support to do so, however, so she came to our offices looking for help.”
My good friend and colleague, Michael J. Katz tells us of walking away in the context of our businesses. “When you first start out on your own, you will probably be grateful for whatever business comes your way. The thought of “walking away” from a client may seem suicidal. It isn’t. As your reputation grows, people will approach you, ready to hand you their money and have you begin work. That’s terrific. However, in some cases, the fit won’t be there—something in your gut will tell you it’s a bad match. You will learn that you can say “no thank you” and walk away.”
Donald Trump is a guy who seems to know all the necessary parts to complete the whole. In an article by Brad Thomas about Trump he shares “Since graduating from University of Pennsylvania’s Wharton School in 1968 and going to work for his dad, Trump has experienced seven recessions, and while the early 1990s recession caused the biggest angst, he was able to climb out of a massive hole of debt — almost $1 billion personally guaranteed — and begin to rebuild his empire.”
Most people know WHAT they want but they don’t know HOW to go about getting it. They get frustrated because they’re working hard yet hard work alone will not take you from where you are to where you wish to go. It makes no sense working hard if you’re working on the wrong things. Sometimes you may get the results that you want but are not consciously aware of HOW you got there. If you don’t know your own formula, how are you going to repeat your performance?
Are you presently stuck, unable to move from a situation that no longer serves you or perhaps is no longer healthy for you? Then consider James’s advice: “The way to avoid [getting yourself into a “stuck” situation] is to diversify the things you are working on so no one person or customer or boss or client can make a decision that could make you rich or destroy you or fulfill your life’s dreams or crush them. I understand it can’t happen in a day. Start planning now how to create your own destiny instead of allowing people who don’t like you to control your destiny.”
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