does this behavior help me become the type of person I wish to be?

“Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.”  – Tony Robbins

Ask better questions, get better answers.

  1. Have you ever created a brilliant plan, feel energized about that plan and then watch as you self sabotage and not act on that plan?
  2. Have you ever started your day making a list of all you needed to do that day, and then at the end of the day, realize that you did NOTHING on your list?
  3. Have you ever promised yourself that you would start eating better, exercising daily, making better choices and then watch as you wreck your own plans?

How we behave counts.

It doesn’t matter our intentions. Our actions move the needle.

Wallace Wattles tells us in the Science of Being Rich:

You can never foresee the full results of even the most trivial act…much may be depending on your doing some simple act, which may be the very act meant to open the door to great possibilities. So do EVERY DAY all that can be done that day.

In Atomic Habits, James Clear examines why we find it difficult to change our habits, our behaviour? Because we are not aware of what we are actually doing, changing habits remains our biggest challenge. Once we become more aware of our habits we can then see which habits are effective that is, habits that are SOLVING our problems.

James says, all habits serve us which is why we repeat even those that sabotage our progress.

He suggests kicking off with a habit scorecard. Some of his suggestions:

  • Wake up
  • Turn off alarm
  • Check my phone
  • Go to the bathroom
  • Weigh myself
  • Take a shower
  • Brush my teeth
  • Floss my teeth
  • Put on deodorant

And so on…

Once you have a full list, look at each behaviour and ask yourself is it a good habit, a bad habit or a neutral habit.

Then look at the habit in relation to your goals.

A even better approach would be to look at who you desire to be – what kind of person. Is what you doing daily helping this identity or killing it?

Your first goal is awareness – to become more aware of WHAT you’re doing.

Observe your thoughts too. Are your thoughts supporting you or are they taking you further off course? Are your thoughts helping you or harming you?

Make a list of your recurring thoughts and then add the score:

  • +ve means positive
  • -ve means negative
  • = means neutral

This is why goals, without a change in who you need to become to achieve those goals, are left on lists and never become real. If we are driven my outcome we are more likely to fail. If we focus on becoming – what qualities must a person going after a particular goal embrace in order to reach that goal.

This is the tipping point.


How do you need to think and act in order to achieve what you’ve been promising yourself for way too long?

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