Laughter is Necessary

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When was the last time you had a good laugh? You know the one where your belly hurts…tears are streaming down your cheeks…and you’re yelling “Staaaaaap!!!”

Adulting can be so serious at times yet laughter really is medicinal.

Anne Lamotte had an interesting way with words.

Carbonated holiness.

All emotions are important. Laughter is important. A lightness of being. A necessity. To ease tension and alleviate stress.

And please…laugh at yourself. Not just your jokes. Laugh at your quirks…what makes you YOU

What it is to be Human…

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Judge not. Assume nothing. We don’t really know what is going on about any situation in someone’s life. On top of which sometimes that person is already giving themselves a hard time.

I am finally learning and understanding to be gentle with me. Lord knows how often I feel negative and act on those negative emotions. There are times when I’ve been judgmental and unkind.

I thought that I had failed…was a failure. I was saying “how could I?” …to the backdrop of the external chorus “how could you?”

I’m learning it’s not a failure…it’s called being human. No one is above that vulnerability… yet if you think you are…go ahead and cast the first stone.

The Travesty: To KNOW and not to DO

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We feel good when we have knowledge under our belt. We believe in the inspiring and thought provoking memes we share. But are we intentionally practicing or do we think we know?

Years ago, I heard a guest speaker at an event say: to know and not to do, is not to know.

This phrase stuck in my head.

Take action. Act on what you know. Examine the memes you post and ask: where am I already practicing this in my life?

Our brains feel satisfied once we say we are going to do something. It’s like that’s enough. We can walk through an entire process in our heads and feel tired at the end.

Let’s defy inertia. Let’s overcome complacency.

Let us act NOW!

Recommit to your Goals…Daily!

Every day we need to recommit to our goals and dreams…to the contracts we’ve made with ourselves…our intentions….what we choose to continue, alter, begin or stop!

At the seat of it all is what we are thinking…while we are doing. The story we are telling is far more important than any action we take.

When we are misaligned we are inspired by detrimental behavior. So if your focus has been ONLY on right action…it might be time to examine your thought life.

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Are you Communicating or just Talking?

green fig messageWhen I saw this picture I had a good laugh. We sweet too bad lol. Then I got to thinking about messages. This message is clear and is put in a place where the person for whom it is intended will get it!

Yet when we have a message we tend not to be so direct. We tell our spouses…partners…friends…and we rant on Facebook about our boss or coworkers. We talk to our friends at work about our spouses and partners and how annoying they are. We tell one friend about another friend. We throw shade through FB and other social status updates hoping that the people who need to read it will read it.

And we pretty much do the same thing with our potential customers. We don’t spend time figuring out who they are or where they’ll be. Instead we send out generalized messages hoping that our potential customers will read between the lines….almost like posting the alphabet and challenging them to guess what we are trying to say!

Don’t talk behind someone’s back.
Stop with the passive aggressive bullshit.

Say what you mean…ask for what you want…and with regard to potential clients…get to know them…for real. Not statistics…not focus groups…REAL

Now do you think that anybody interfered with that fig? 😂😂😂

Never Lose Your Why

keep the magic. do the work.

As we grow we sometimes lose sight of why we chose the work we do. Instead of serving a cause we shifted to serving for likes, recognition…climbing painfully up the attention status hierarchy.

Today I went back to a simple exercise I did in 2005….I stated all the reasons why I wanted to achieve 3 goals in particular. I wrote each goal at the top of the page and underneath list 10 or so reasons why achieving that goal was important to me.

I guess it’s the difference between being motivated by the approval of an extremely fickle and unreliable audience to relying on an inner compass that knows all and guides accurately.

Tap into that magic and serve with love.

What’s Your Word?

Have you ever heard about choosing one word and living with it for a year?

Well some time back in November I decided to choose joy.

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Joy is the highest energy of all. It’s the magical sense that everything is possible; it springs from appreciating the gifts in each moment except I wasn’t doing that. I was choosing joy in the morning and then found myself stressing about the money I had to earn to do the things I wanted throughout the day. I saw myself feeling unhappy that in order to lose weight i needed to step up my exercise frequency and be more committed to the routine.

And then I saw this question: Are your dreams a source of frustration or delight?

My dreams need to be a source of delight. And then I remembered this axiom: when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

Is it possible to look at two versions of my present reality…I wondered?

Today I will focus simultaneously on:
1.My exciting future
2. Finding reasons in my current reality to be happy

Will let you know how it goes

How are you telling YOUR story?

Brene Brown says that if we OWN the story we can write the ending. Jardin has just started a new chapter.

Yesterday Jardin reopened after three months of dismantling, breaking down, re-visioning and rebuilding.

I walked through the door and was in awe. There was no grand opening, just business as usual…friends huddled together over a meal…laughter…chattering….murmurs. Moms and daughters, fathers, sisters, friends who’ve been friends for most of Jardin’s lifetime – 37 years. Familiar staff…new faces…greeting customers with hugs and good cheer.

It felt good to be back home!

The regulars were elated.

Everything was different but the Jardin essence remained.

You see you can’t just TELL a story. You have to tell YOUR story.

FB_IMG_1575336972247That story has to be lived and embodied by every one working for and with you. No easy task but it’s possible.

I’ve never really written about food and I’m definitely not a foodie however my fish tacos were to die for and my lemon meringue pie was pure delight.

Jardin has been shaping their story for years. The Jardin then and now has changed several times. Same space but you can see growth and innovation and being alive and well.

Every interaction seemed raw and honest coming from the core of the person delivering it. Customer service cannot be contrived – that’s for sure. It must come from the heart.

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Even in the leadership, owner Juliette Petit sat enjoying the unfolding as her daughter Rayne handled the staff, getting feedback on the first day, bent on constant and never ending improvement. Sure certain things were missing, like the signs that she was expecting but generally while this young apprentice had studied what had come before her – she is unique in her delivery – a combination of what was and her own innovative spin.

Juliette has definitely welcomed the unknown. There are lots of new things on the menu, the tried and “please don’t ever take this off the menu” items, the Poke bowls and the sides that makes it a no-brainer to the question –  “what’s for dinner?”

Stories evolve, and it takes time and dedication to realize your vision.

  • It took four years for Beethoven to complete his 5th symphony at the age of 38.
  • Mark Twain was 49 when he wrote Adventures of Huckleberry Finn.
  • At 38, John Coltrane recorded A Love Supreme, three years before his death.
  • Leonardo Da Vinci was 51 years old when he painted the Mona Lisa.

I have no doubt in my mind, based on past performance that Jardin will be here for generations to come. Jardin is different. Not for the sake of being different. But Juliette has always had that self-certainty about what she wanted and how she wanted it. It takes courage to stand for what you want and reject some things that others feel you should do. But her steadfastness to her own truth makes Jardin a brand that has carved out a space with a permanent stamp in the history of food in Trinidad and Tobago.

We all have a message that needs to be shared and I received Jardin’s message loud and clear yesterday – we are here to stay – and we intend to do that through improvisation, innovation and genuine interaction with those who make it possible for us to remain in the game!

 

The Power of Music

Been thinking about the power of words and the river words travel along…music.

Been thinking about today…it’s a new day…a gift…

Every day we must face a fork in the road: make the same mistakes over again…do what we have always done or decide that it’s time for the illusion to end.

Think about it: for every door that is shut…another opens. Nothing is permanent. Life is fluid. Embrace the good and what we call bad because all results provide feedback….clues…course correction…guidance.

Love all of you. When you fuck up and when you are making a name for yourself. Claim your gifts….leverage your power and if you have no words to inspire or encourage…lean into music.

The Power of Your Words

dont speak against yourself

Sure we say…it’s just a joke…if I can’t laugh at myself sometimes then who am I?

I’m just poor and polite
You know me…underloved…underpaid

Memes abound…what our bank accounts look like…our take home pay doesn’t take us home…we’re blowing our retirement money and going on a trip…should be back by lunchtime.

Funny? Sure! But Maya Angelou discovered this great truth…Some day we’ll be able to measure the power of words. I think they are things. They get on the walls. They get in your wallpaper. They get in your rugs, in your upholstery, and your clothes, and finally in to you.

Watch what you’re saying both aloud and silently to yourself.

Choose your words carefully.