Practice Asking: “What if…?”

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what ifI used to think when I was much younger that I was lucky. I also remember having big, bold, audacious dreams. Then…as time passed…my dream circle shrank in size. I became afraid to let my mind expand. I cut off the blood supply to my imagination and entered a room with fifty shades of grey minus the excitement.

This comfort zone is not tiny. It’s filled with fear of judgment…fear of doing it wrong…fear that the idea I’m excited about is dumb…and on and on.

However it’s a new day…and I have decided that I intend to be the kind of person who chases wild dreams…who honors the gift of my ideas…who sets others free by the pain and imperfection of my own life.

I will not live another day in fear of failing and I won’t die an unlived life! The more I truly live…is the more open I will become.

The first step in telling a better story is to ask “What if?”

Today is the day I’m setting myself free and giving birth to my true self! –

Let Down that Heavy Load

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As I pry my fingers off of all the hurt I’ve been carrying…some from perhaps when I was maybe two or three…the actual chain of events…vague…but the pain…raw and real…I’m thinking that we can only let go when we learn.

I’m not suggesting painstakingly rehashing events. What I am suggesting is that we let our pain speak to us and define for us…what is that need not being fulfilled. When we don’t fill ourselves with what we need…love…recognition…a need to belong…we fill ourselves up with food…overindulgence…distractions…including being busy all the time…yet we are never satisfied.

This learning never comes in the form of weekly scheduled lessons. It can happen in an instant.

Stay with the pain. Cry. Laugh. Be curious. You will know what is true for you. And when you touch that truth kernel you will feel the relief of bobbing to the surface and taking a long breath…because you have been underwater for so long.

And in that instant you will know…life as you know it won’t be the same again.

Not speaking from the balcony…but in the trenches. Today I choose joy once again and i thank yesterday’s pain for the light it brought to my life. Thank you πŸ’œ

How do you Heal?

all natural remedies

Often we need to take a step back before moving forward.

Most of all we need to listen to what our soul is trying to tell us.

Crying clears everything up for me…it washes away my pain…and moves all mental debris clogging up my ability to see.

I need space often to think and create.

I need to talk it out just to hear myself and my thoughts out loud.

What’s frightening now is a new adventure that I am conceiving. I’m comfortable with the way I’ve always done things yet my soul says it’s time for a step change – a significant change in my life.

Fear wants to immobilize…ego is colluding…but this dragon will no longer remain tethered to the dismantling remains of a life that no longer works.

December…oh December…this new decade is almost upon us! Carpe diem the living daylights of time left here on earth.

I want to see your talents and gifts being shared…I want to share my own.

This difference we seek…starts with us.

It’s time…BEGIN!

What Stories are you Telling about your Life?

this was once a seed

What story seeds are you planting? We are all telling a story about our health, our finances, our relationships…What story will you tell?

Will it be one that is heroic and empowering?

You can be honest about all that you have experienced and done, yet still write a story that will help you feel that you are strong, wise, and learning.

It’s time to leave old stories behind. It’s time for new storytelling. Consider all you have learned, give yourself credit for the wisdom you have acquired, and begin replacing any stories of scarcity…with abundance

Laughter is Necessary

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When was the last time you had a good laugh? You know the one where your belly hurts…tears are streaming down your cheeks…and you’re yelling “Staaaaaap!!!”

Adulting can be so serious at times yet laughter really is medicinal.

Anne Lamotte had an interesting way with words.

Carbonated holiness.

All emotions are important. Laughter is important. A lightness of being. A necessity. To ease tension and alleviate stress.

And please…laugh at yourself. Not just your jokes. Laugh at your quirks…what makes you YOU

What it is to be Human…

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Judge not. Assume nothing. We don’t really know what is going on about any situation in someone’s life. On top of which sometimes that person is already giving themselves a hard time.

I am finally learning and understanding to be gentle with me. Lord knows how often I feel negative and act on those negative emotions. There are times when I’ve been judgmental and unkind.

I thought that I had failed…was a failure. I was saying “how could I?” …to the backdrop of the external chorus “how could you?”

I’m learning it’s not a failure…it’s called being human. No one is above that vulnerability… yet if you think you are…go ahead and cast the first stone.

The Travesty: To KNOW and not to DO

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We feel good when we have knowledge under our belt. We believe in the inspiring and thought provoking memes we share. But are we intentionally practicing or do we think we know?

Years ago, I heard a guest speaker at an event say: to know and not to do, is not to know.

This phrase stuck in my head.

Take action. Act on what you know. Examine the memes you post and ask: where am I already practicing this in my life?

Our brains feel satisfied once we say we are going to do something. It’s like that’s enough. We can walk through an entire process in our heads and feel tired at the end.

Let’s defy inertia. Let’s overcome complacency.

Let us act NOW!

Recommit to your Goals…Daily!

Every day we need to recommit to our goals and dreams…to the contracts we’ve made with ourselves…our intentions….what we choose to continue, alter, begin or stop!

At the seat of it all is what we are thinking…while we are doing. The story we are telling is far more important than any action we take.

When we are misaligned we are inspired by detrimental behavior. So if your focus has been ONLY on right action…it might be time to examine your thought life.

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Are you Communicating or just Talking?

green fig messageWhen I saw this picture I had a good laugh. We sweet too bad lol. Then I got to thinking about messages. This message is clear and is put in a place where the person for whom it is intended will get it!

Yet when we have a message we tend not to be so direct. We tell our spouses…partners…friends…and we rant on Facebook about our boss or coworkers. We talk to our friends at work about our spouses and partners and how annoying they are. We tell one friend about another friend. WeΒ throw shade through FB and other social status updates hoping that the people who need to read it will read it.

And we pretty much do the same thing with our potential customers. We don’t spend time figuring out who they are or where they’ll be. Instead we send out generalized messages hoping that our potential customers will read between the lines….almost like posting the alphabet and challenging them to guess what we are trying to say!

Don’t talk behind someone’s back.
Stop with the passive aggressive bullshit.

Say what you mean…ask for what you want…and with regard to potential clients…get to know them…for real. Not statistics…not focus groups…REAL

Now do you think that anybody interfered with that fig?Β πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Never Lose Your Why

keep the magic. do the work.

As we grow we sometimes lose sight of why we chose the work we do. Instead of serving a cause we shifted to serving for likes, recognition…climbing painfully up the attention status hierarchy.

Today I went back to a simple exercise I did in 2005….I stated all the reasons why I wanted to achieve 3 goals in particular. I wrote each goal at the top of the page and underneath list 10 or so reasons why achieving that goal was important to me.

I guess it’s the difference between being motivated by the approval of an extremely fickle and unreliable audience to relying on an inner compass that knows all and guides accurately.

Tap into that magic and serve with love.