If you truly were to work on discovering who you really were – then perhaps the challenges in life and love would become clearer. Expect however that your life will be sprinkled with difficulties here and there.
In Scott Peck’s book: – “The Road Less Traveled” he opens with the statement
Life is difficult”; he then goes on to say “Once we truly know that life is difficult – once we truly understand and accept it – then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.
Know that wherever you find yourself right now is perhaps where you were meant to be. You were not placed in this position entirely by accident. There are lessons for you to learn and your job is to become aware and begin learning.
All too often we get into relationships not fully knowing ourselves. We need to first understand the importance of first searching and discovering our true role in this life. It is vital to discover what is right for you. Your body always tells you when something just isn’t right for you – you get an uncomfortable feeling in the pit of your stomach, an invisible red flag goes up in your head or alarms go off. Most times we are so bent and fixated on how “it’s supposed to be” that we receive the signs but choose to ignore them because we simply have not developed faith in ourselves, our intuition and our gut instinct.
As we mature we must follow through with our plans and accept and endure whatever consequences occur. Furthermore we must know when to make appropriate adjustments and have the courage to do so as each level of life unfolds and reveals itself. Above all strive to be true to your life and to your desires.
Everything else will fall into place after that!
Remember…let your light shine!
In reading a copy of M. Scott Peck’s – The Road Less Traveled and Beyond, in his chapter on Learning and Growth – I discovered this quote by Soren Kierkegaard, who said:
A man may perform astonishing feats and comprehend a vast amount of knowledge, and yet have no understanding of himself. But suffering directs a man to look within. If it succeeds, then there, within him, is the beginning of his learning.
Is suffering and pain some sort of necessary teaching tool to help us become more acquainted with who we are? The learning though only comes when we look within. Most times this is difficult because then we are forced to confront our shadows – which during the light of day we constantly try to avoid.
I always tell people: you are made up of dark and light. However you are not a whole person until you accept ALL of you. The pain comes when you try to disassociate yourself from that part of you that procrastinates, or is full of pride, lacks patience, is unforgiving. Yet it is you and if you don’t accept you, who will?
Of course I am a thinker of sorts and most people are quick to tell you that you are too obsessed with yourself. I believe that there is balance. I feel that you owe it to your very existence to understand why you do things the way you do and most of all when things happen – to ask the most maddening question in the whole wide world: WHY? And while much of life will remain a mystery I feel certain that there are sometimes quiet answers lurking in and around our states of consciousness and unconsciousness. Most times we shrug it off and think we’re self indulgent.
Just remember this is YOUR journey. You’ll be traveling with you for some time yet. Get acquainted – it’s just impossible to run away from yourself!
There is something to say about being in flow. Whenever we try to work contrary or against the grain of life, we struggle. Whenever we co-operate, we find that we can sometimes work hours on end – sometimes even with out food. This is when we have begun to dance the dance with grace.
So many times we think we know ourselves but do we?
In the hustle and bustle of the world we are constantly in motion. In fact we actually think it a “sin” if we find ourselves with nothing to do. It’s no wonder we feel disconnected, fragmented and no doubt weary that we never sit still and get acquainted with our true selves.
The road to becoming a well paid professional first helps to find a way back to yourself. For until you know who you are and what your purpose is it means that you will continue to fight instead of flow with life.